dreamingpixels | About me (Reply)

I figured having a post that contained some basic info about me, some of my interests, and a couple of links to posts that describe most of the past 9-ish years of my life might be kind of helpful.

So, here we go! (This is going to be a living document that I'll try to revisit regularly so it's got the most up-to-date info.)

About me

I'm Beth, a 40-something woman who's pansexual, polyamorous, nerdy, and kinda awkward most of the time. I enjoy watching sci-fi TV shows, hanging out with my cat, playing the occasional video game, reading books (sci-fi and fantasy are my favorite genres), spending time outside, playing tabletop RPGs, LARPing (which combines spending time outside and playing RPGs!), and crafting. While I think I'm past my ridiculous flaily fangirl days, for the most part, I'm definitely a huge enough Star Trek fan to consider that one of my fandoms. (I also used to be pretty heavily into Sailor Moon back in the day.)

I work in higher ed IT, doing all sorts of things related to technology training, and I love my job. I'm a tech nerd in general, and not only do I love learning, I also enjoy teaching - and my work combines those two things nicely.

I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult (just before I turned 35) and also likely have autism as well (though I don't currently have a diagnosis), and I swear, wrangling my brain is a full-time job all on its own.

About my relationships

As mentioned previously, I'm polyamorous and currently in three relationships - and while it's a lot of work, I wouldn't change it for anything in the world. I've been with J since 2016, Peter since 2021, and Lucas since 2023. We're part of a bigger polycule that's actually gotten kinda large over the years - large enough to need a diagram. (Oh, I remember the days when it was just a double-hinge arrangement involving my ex-wife, me, J, and Kasi)

Click here to view the diagram.

About this journal

I started this specific journal here on Dreamwidth back during the Dreamwidth open beta in 2009, under the username purpleparadox. Once DW introduced the option to import journal entries from accounts on LiveJournal, though, I pulled in the entries from the pile of accounts I had on LJ back in the day and corralled them all here. (I changed usernames SO DAMN MUCH back then - probably another indicator of that late-diagnosed ADHD, haha.) As a result, there's almost 25 years of history recorded in this journal - though I really, REALLY don't recommend you read anything before maybe 2005 or so because I was an absolute dumpster fire of a human being back then. (Then again, when one's main adult role model is their narcissistic, abusive, manipulative mother, they tend to mirror that until reality smacks them upside the head and says "hey, you need to unlearn a lot of these toxic behaviors before you fuck yourself up worse".)

Catching up on what's been going on

I'll warn you, some of the "catching up" posts here are kind of fragmented, and while they contain the most memorable bits of what happened, my memory isn't what it used to be - especially for anything that happened in 2022.